I mentioned a few posts ago about how I’m Ashamed of not being in school right now due to financial problems.  Well a few days ago I was enrolled into Kaplan University’s online classes.  I’m excited because now I feel like I can pursue SOMETHING in life.  I feel like I can finally accomplish something. My mom is glad that I’ll be taking some courses online, hell it was her idea. My older sister is definitely excited.

One person seemed not so excited, a patron of mine at the library, that I regularly help. When I told her about my classes she went on patronizing my accomplishment. I don’t argue with older people, 60+, because I know they are senile.  The thing that irked me is how internet illiterate people are so quick to judge based on their own insecurities.   This woman said that she doesn’t agree with online courses and doesn’t see the purpose of them, she laughed about how would I do homework, how will it be graded, how will the teacher know if I read a book? She went on about how if it was some accredited school that she would feel fine about it. Being me, I just smiled, why even argue?

With that said, what’s your outlook on online schools?
Me personally, I think they are fabulous. I haven’t exactly done anything yet but I believe the concept is great.  It’s very convenient for a lot of people and doesn’t work out for some.  Really, it’s not for everybody.  Hell it may not even be for me, but I am very committed in making this work out for myself right now. I could give two shits less of what anyone thinks about how I am attempting to better myself.

I’ve had my share of dudes and being 21 I’ve had a broad variety.  I’ve had the ugly bf, the bf girls thought was ugly but when we dated it became a huge deal, drug dealing wanna be rapper boyfriend, boyfriend with kids and the baby mom calling ME like the bitch had no sense, boyfriend who had a sister who thought I gave a shit that she didn’t like me..anyways my point is that even though I have a boyfriend, I still get “holla’d” at.

Yes, we can all agree that when you’re single no one bothers with you but as soon as you’re “boo’d” up everyone wants to come out the woodworks. That’s just how it is, it fades away the longer you’ve been in the relationship, but every now and then it happens.

With my past experiences with boyfriends it allows me to read guys pretty quick when they attempt to talk to me. Now, I’m not Ms. Cleo or nothin’, but I can tell what dude is all about and how far he’s trying to go. Call it a gift if you must! (Haha) My thing is I’m not knocking their game, but I consider myself a grown ass woman and for them to think they can kick that lame ass game this way or that is not cool.  Why would I want to be with a guy with grillz sitting on 22s, screaming illegal. Or a guy with a kid, that’s baggage that I’m not even interested in. (And if you think for a second there’s no baggage, you need a reality check.)

I think that a lot of these guys approach us the way they do because the previous girl or just females in general are lowering their standards.  Just because a guy has a car they assume we will hop in or give out our numbers, or because they believe they are the sexiest thing on earth no one can tell them anything. Its quite a shame and they need to get a grip.

We are so much more than looks and money. Where’s your pride & dignity ladies? It’s 2008 being independent isn’t something new.  I always say, if I can’t afford it I don’t need it.